as time passes, as experience grows, as knowledge flows, we change and learn things that we seem to always overlook when we’re younger.
the things that happened recently, made me realise and acknowledge a number of things.
1. family will always be my priority.
they are the ones who saw us grow and nurtured us into who we are today. they (parents) are the ones who provided us with a shelter to live under, clothes to keep us warm, food to keep us alive, and money to maintain our needs and heed our wants. they are the ones whom we know we can rely on when everything around us seem to fall apart. they are the ones whom we should take care of as they age, as their health declines, as they lose their autonomy to do basic chores to keep them alive. because we’re family, we know we share the same blood running through our veins. because we’re family, we’ll always be there for each other. and for me, family is my priority, and will always be.
2. anger is irrational. patience is a virtue.
anger is irrational when we don’t know the reason behind why we’re experiencing this emotion. something definitely triggered that feeling of angst. but what exactly did? and why are we so affected by what happened? if we dont know why or what’s the cause of the anger, it is irrational.
patience, on the other hand, is a virtue. something that should be learned. which is why im learning, still. the patience to explain things to people when my emotions are heightened. the patience to wait and not spout strings of vulgarities during the process. the patience to listen to others when they are saying something personal… and so on.. with patience, one will learn a lot more things about their surroundings, themselves and others.
3. words have more weight to them than we think.
words, like a bucket of water poured onto the floor, cant be taken back once it’s out. by saying something when you’re angry or upset, you have the tendency to say hurtful words, and probably, the ugliest of things one can say to another. and these words can scar the person for a longer period of time than we would possibly know. we have our times when we said something that was meant to be a joke and someone gets affected/offended because of our lack of sensitivity towards certain issues. therefore, think before you speak. words do weigh a lot, so much that sometimes, even “sorry” dont work because the pain cant be erased.
4. silence may not always be the best solution to a problem but, it’s always the best way to avoid further misunderstandings.
while some people like to settle an argument straight out, others like to be left alone to think and rationalize. silence is, in this case, the best bet. you do not want a scenerio whereby the argument gets blown out of proportion just because of heightened emotions and careless words. keeping quiet does not mean that you are weak or nonchalant, it just means that you are mature enough to take a step back to think about the problem and, to reflect how you can better solve the solution by not adding fuel to the fire. while many don’t realise, silence is, the best weapon anyone can carry in an argument.
these four things what i’ve been learning to acknowledge during these past months. i still do get angry and say things i don’t mean. i still do get impatient and do things i know arent the way to solve the problem. but, like i said, i’m learning. learning to keep my temper in. learning to walk away from a situation that i know would piss me off further. learning to ignore what isn’t my business and just keep quiet. hopefully i’ll make a good progress with it. this post shall be my constant reminder. it shall be.
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